Missing from the discourse is an exploration of the human dimensions of sexual connection and its potential to create meaning, joy, mutual pleasure and unparalleled levels of physical and emotional intimacy. We tell young people what we want them to say no to, but not all the things we want them, eventually, to say yes to. What heartens me is that deep down girls and boys know that they are receiving a partial message at best. Like the research Ms. Both girls and boys overwhelmingly choose genuine intimacy, results I then share.